“Dear Lisa: Do I need to be in therapy to truly implement DEI work? I find myself really wrestling with the emotions this work is bringing up, and I don’t necessarily feel comfortable processing them all publicly. . .”
The people in my org, including myself, really want to do the work of DEI and as y’all call it, unlearning racism. The problem is, we’re already so overloaded and understaffed that no one is quite sure where to find the time for it. . .”
I don’t know if I can keep up this pace for another year.
I don’t know what to give up, and I don’t know how. I feel like I’m careening toward collapse and I’m supposed to be starting the year with fresh excitement?? HELP!”
At least once a week I get asked some version of, “What do you think of [insert]? Does it scare you?”
And pretty much every time my answer is, No.
No, I am not scared of that.
How can I be honest with my team about my fears as a leader, without passing my fears onto them too?”
What questions can I ask to find out how diverse, equitable, inclusive, and accessible an organization’s culture ACTUALLY is?”
“It’s very easy to lose the ability to advocate for yourself if you are only ever rewarded for not doing so.”
When you find yourself in the middle of a social justice reckoning…
It’s not done when you say you’re an ally, or say you’re an anti-racist.
It’s not done when you’ve sat with your group of white friends and discussed “The Warmth of Other Suns” while sipping Chardonnay and lamenting about the struggles of others.
How do I talk with someone (at work) who is refusing to get a Covid vaccine for religious or conscientious reasons?”
I’m done trying to make change when there is no certainty about where we will be next year, hell, even next month.
I’m done trying to solve problems when it feels like other people just whine and complain and take no ownership for themselves, or just can’t be pleased.
I’m done busting my ass when it feels like everything is falling to shit around me.